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The Different Types of Divorce Services

December 16, 2023

Divorce can be a complicated and emotionally taxing process, and navigating it requires understanding the various services available. From divorce lawyers and mediation to coaching and uncontested proceedings, each service offers unique benefits suited to different situations. This blog explores these options to help you make the most informed decision for your circumstances.

What Constitutes a Divorce in New York?

The Different Types of Divorce Services

In New York, a divorce is the legal process of dissolving a marriage, governed by state laws. The process involves several key elements:

Grounds for Divorce

New York allows both "no-fault" and "fault-based" divorces.

  • No-Fault Divorce: Introduced in 2010, this allows a divorce based on the breakdown of the marriage for at least six months, indicating that the relationship is irretrievably broken.
  • Fault-Based Grounds: Include cruel and inhuman treatment, abandonment for a continuous period of one year or more, imprisonment for more than three years subsequent to the marriage, and adultery.

Residency Requirements

Before filing for divorce in New York, you must meet certain residency requirements:

  • Either spouse has been living in New York for a continuous period of at least two years immediately before the divorce case is started.
  • Either spouse has been living in New York for a continuous period of at least one year immediately before the divorce case is started and:
  • You got married in New York, or
  • You lived in New York as a married couple, or
  • The grounds for your divorce happened in New York.
  • Both you and your spouse are residents of New York on the day the divorce is started, and the grounds for your divorce happened in New York.

Legal Process

The divorce process typically involves:

  • Filing a Complaint: The spouse seeking the divorce (plaintiff) files a complaint with the court, stating the grounds for divorce.
  • Serving the Complaint: The complaint must be legally served to the other spouse (defendant), who then has the opportunity to respond.
  • Settlement or Trial: The couple can either reach a settlement through negotiation or mediation, or proceed to trial where a judge will make decisions on unresolved issues.
  • Finalizing the Divorce: Once all issues are resolved, either through settlement or court decision, the court issues a final divorce decree, legally ending the marriage.

Key Issues in Divorce

Divorces in New York address several important issues:

  • Property Division: New York is an "equitable distribution" state, meaning property acquired during the marriage is divided fairly, but not necessarily 50-50.
  • Child Custody and Support: Decisions are made based on the best interests of the child(ren).
  • Spousal Support: Also known as alimony, this may be granted to one spouse based on several factors, including the length of the marriage and each spouse's financial status.

Uncontested vs. Contested Divorce

  • Uncontested Divorce: Both parties agree on all terms, including property division, child custody, and support.
  • Contested Divorce: The spouses disagree on one or more key aspects, requiring court intervention to resolve.

Divorce in New York requires meeting specific grounds, residency requirements, and involves a legal process to address marital issues. It's advised to consult with a legal professional for guidance tailored to your specific circumstances, as divorce law can be complex, especially when dealing with contested issues or significant assets.

The Different Types of Divorce Services

Navigating the path of divorce can be complex and emotionally challenging. Understanding the different types of divorce services available is crucial in choosing the right support for your unique situation. Whether you're seeking legal representation, amicable mediation, personal coaching, or a more straightforward uncontested divorce process, each service offers distinct advantages and caters to different needs. In this section, we'll explore the various divorce services, including divorce lawyers, mediators, coaches, collaborative divorce, and DIY options, to help you make an informed decision on the best path forward in your divorce journey.

1. Divorce Lawyer

A divorce lawyer is a licensed attorney specializing in family law. They represent and guide you through the entire legal process of divorce.

  • Key Services: Legal advice, preparation and filing of legal documents, court representation, negotiation of terms like asset division, child custody, and alimony.
  • Best For: Complex cases with disputes over assets, custody, or when one party anticipates contention.

2. Divorce Mediation

Divorce mediation involves a neutral third party (mediator) who helps both spouses reach an agreement.

  • Key Services: Facilitating discussions, helping identify and resolve issues, and assisting in creating a mutually acceptable agreement.
  • Best For: Couples seeking an amicable divorce, willing to work together to reach agreements.

3. Divorce Coach

A divorce coach provides emotional and practical support throughout the divorce process.

  • Key Services: Emotional support, guidance in decision-making, communication strategies, personal development, and goal setting.
  • Best For: Individuals needing emotional support and guidance to navigate the personal challenges of divorce.

4. Uncontested Divorce Lawyer

In an uncontested divorce, both parties agree on all major aspects of the divorce, such as asset division, custody, and support.

  • Key Services: Filing legal paperwork, minimal legal negotiation or intervention.
  • Best For: Couples who have reached an agreement independently and have no disputes.

5. Collaborative Divorce Lawyer

This is a team approach where each spouse has their own lawyer, and both parties agree to resolve issues without going to court.

  • Key Services: Team meetings to negotiate terms, commitment to a negotiated solution, and involvement of other professionals like financial advisors.
  • Best For: Couples seeking a structured but non-adversarial process, willing to collaborate openly.

6. DIY Divorce (Do-It-Yourself)

For those with a straightforward situation and agreement on divorce terms, handling the divorce process without professional legal assistance.

  • Key Services: Self-preparation of documents, self-representation in court.
  • Best For: Couples with a simple asset situation, agreement on all terms, and confidence in handling legal procedures independently.

Disclaimer: I don't recommend this type of divorce for various reasons, especially if there are custody terms, spousal or child support to be paid or waived, division of real property, assets, retirement or debt. I would recommend a consultation with a lawyer before trying DIY or Online divorce service. Online divorce services often drop the ball, do not include all the services that are necessary and are not forthcoming with fees. Buyer be ware.

7. Online Divorce Services

These services provide tools and resources to prepare divorce documents online, often for a flat fee.

  • Key Services: Document preparation based on provided information, and instructions for filing.
  • Best For: Uncontested divorces where couples agree on terms and want a cost-effective, quick process.

Disclaimer: I don't recommend this type of divrorce for various reasons, especially if there are custody terms, spousal or child support to be paid or waived, division of real property, assets, retirement or debt. I would recommend a consultation with a lawyer before trying DIY or Online divorce service. Online divorce services often drop the ball, do not include all the services that are necessary and are not forthcoming with fees. Buyer be ware.

How To Know Which Type of Divorce Service is Right For You

Deciding on the right type of divorce service is crucial for navigating the process smoothly and effectively. Here’s a guide to help you understand which service might be the best fit for your situation.

Evaluate Your Specific Needs

Start by assessing your particular needs and circumstances:

  • Complexity of Your Case: If you have complex financial issues, significant assets, or custody matters, you might need the expertise of a divorce lawyer.
  • Level of Conflict: High-conflict situations often require legal representation, while more amicable separations might be well-suited to mediation.
  • Emotional Support: If you're struggling with the emotional aspects of divorce, a divorce coach can provide guidance and support.

Consider Your Budget

Legal services can vary significantly in cost. Determine what you can reasonably afford while considering the complexity and needs of your case.

Think About the Long-Term Implications

The type of service you choose can impact your post-divorce life, especially in terms of financial settlements and child custody arrangements. Consider the long-term outcomes of each option.

Seek Initial Consultations

Many divorce professionals offer initial consultations. Use these meetings to gauge the suitability of the service for your specific situation.

Reflect on Your Personal Comfort Level

Your comfort and trust in the professional or service you choose are paramount. Ensure you feel heard, understood, and respected in your choice.

Assess the Level of Cooperation with Your Spouse

The ability to cooperatively work with your spouse plays a significant role in determining the right service. High levels of cooperation lend themselves well to mediation or collaborative divorce.

Need Help Deciding Which Divorce Service is Right for You?

Embarking on a divorce can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to navigate this journey alone. Whether you need legal guidance, emotional support, or a streamlined process, we’re here to help you choose the right service for your unique situation. Contact us today for a personalized consultation and take the first step towards a new beginning with confidence and clarity.

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FAQs

How long do I need to be a resident to file for divorce in New York?

You or your spouse must be a resident of New York for at least two years before filing. Alternatively, you can file if you've been residents for one year and were married in New York, lived in New York as a married couple, or the grounds for divorce occurred in New York.

What is the difference between contested and uncontested divorce?

In an uncontested divorce, both parties agree on all terms, including property division, child custody, and support. A contested divorce involves disputes over these terms, requiring court intervention.

Can I get a divorce in New York without going to court?

Yes, if you have an uncontested divorce, you may not need to go to court. However, the divorce papers still need to be filed and approved by the court.

What is divorce mediation?

Divorce mediation is a process where a neutral third party helps you and your spouse reach an agreement on divorce terms. It’s a collaborative approach that often avoids the need for a court trial.

How is property divided in a New York divorce?

New York is an equitable distribution state, meaning property acquired during the marriage is divided fairly, though not necessarily equally, based on factors like the duration of the marriage and each spouse's income and assets.

Do I need a lawyer for a New York divorce?

While it's not legally required to have a lawyer, it's advisable in contested divorces or if there are complex issues. For simpler, uncontested cases, you may proceed without an attorney.

How is child custody determined in New York?

Child custody is determined based on the best interests of the child, considering factors like the child’s age, each parent's ability to care for the child, and the child's relationship with each parent.

What is a divorce coach, and do I need one in New York?

A divorce coach provides emotional support and guidance through the divorce process. While not a legal requirement, a coach can be helpful in managing the personal and emotional aspects of divorce.

Can I use online divorce services in New York?

Yes, online divorce services can be used for uncontested divorces in New York, especially when the terms are straightforward and both parties are in agreement.

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